LOVE IS WICKED

Friends my first article "Love has not been fair to me", has done me a great help because a friend of Bright's called Paul Siameh, who knew about Bright and I, contacted me after he read the article and gave me some details about how Bright died.

For all these years, I had remained in the dark about how it actually happened. But now I know how Bright passed on and some issues surrounding his death. All I can say is MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PERFECT PEACE.

A few years after Bright passed on, I met Kobby at a program in my vicinity. Immediately I saw him I fell in love with what he was doing and how he did it so perfectly. I stood at a distance watching him as he played the keyboards. That was the first time I ever saw a band perform so well.

I had been sent by my mum and had to go home and deliver the item but I couldn’t. It was as if I have been glued to where I stood just to watch them. But I was not surprised because I have passion for music. I never concentrated on the personalities but on what they were doing.

It was a three days program and that was the second day, so I decided to go back the third day and actually participate. So the following day I dressed beautifully, which is something I really know how to do, go to
premises early and I sat a vantage point where I could see everything clearly.

Surprisingly, the keyboardist kept staring at me so at a point I felt very uncomfortable but I could not do anything about it. I watched them for a while and took my eyes off them just to avoid him watching me.

After the program, just when I was leaving, one lady called me and told me to go with her to see something so I followed her. Lo and behold it was the keyboardist who wanted to talk to me. He asked my name and lot of details about me and we finally exchanged contacts.

That night he called me and we talked at length so I told him about my love for music and the fact that I sing at church and aiming to be a great musician the country has ever gotten. I remember very well that night I sang a song on phone while he played keyboard from his room in Accra and that was a nice experience which has always been in mind till date.

Subsequently we communicated and our likeness for each other grew. Eventually I had to go to a computer school in Accra. When I got to Accra, I did not have any friend so I called him and went to pay him a visit. He actually cooked for me to eat.

I had never seen a man who cooks so well like Kobby. He gave me a special treat. I did not tell him I have moved to Accra but told him I only came to town and decided to pay him a visit.

We kept communicating on phone for about a month before I visited him again and told him I was in town so he visited me the following day. I was in a hostel so we sat outside and had a lengthy chat. We went to a restaurant close by to have some real good meal.

We were friends but he started passing love advances at me. It did not take long for Kobby to proposed but I did not accept because I was not so much in love with him.

After a while, I realized that my life was mostly centered on him because any time I picked my phone, thoughts of him came to mind and he will be the one I will call first. With time I thought of giving him a chance so I finally agreed to him.

We were so much in tune with each other so much so that I ate anything he eats and vice versa. We spent almost every weekend together. We will go to the beach and other interesting places to have a good time. I grew to love him but there was one thing I did not like about him; he was not too good in communication.

Kobby was a quiet and handsome guy who will not even entertain my friends, and he does not have friends we could visit. He did not drink alcohol. He was not quick tempered at all and would always want me to be with him.

All was well from the start, the all of a sudden something happened; I used to have a male friend who I promised to visit. But when I met Kobby, I started giving the other guy excuses because I did not know how Kobby would take it. The excuses became too much so I decided to go and visit him, but I lied to Kobby that I was going to see my Mum. I knew I could go and return the following day without any problem.

Surprisingly, on my way Kobby called me and asked where I have gotten to so I told him and all he said was do you know I know where you are going and that you are not going to see your mum? My breath suddenly seized and I did not know what to say. Just when I tried to redeem myself, he hanged the phone on me. At once I lost interest in the trip but could not return because of where I had gotten to.

I was not myself that whole night because Kobby was not picking my calls so I lied to my friend that my mum was not well that is why I have not been myself. I told him I will leave very early that morning and go see my mum and he agreed. I could not sleep the whole night just calling and thinking about Kobby.

I left at dawn and got to Kobby's house early morning. He did not say anything when he saw me but just went back to bed. I sat in the sofa close to the bed while he lied down. I thought he will at least welcome me but he did not say a word to me, so I sat on the bed and touched him but he did not even move his body. I tried to wake him up to talk to him. But he barked "what" in anger.

I kept quiet for a while and later told him I was sorry for lying to him and that the other guy was a good friend of mine I had always promised to visit but I could not gather courage to tell him because I did not know how he will take it and I did not want to hurt him.

Kobby finally woke up and nearly gave me a slap but stopped and shouted at me to leave him alone. Tears immediately started flowing down my cheeks and I went back to sit in the sofa. After a while he came to me crying. He held me and said "I am sorry dear, you nearly made me do something I have vowed not to do to a woman, but I was so hurt and angry at the same time." We then talked it over and everything became normal again.

Kobby was okay but my problem with him was that he was too quiet for my liking. He will only talk to me if he needs something from me or was calling me to come and eat. I am not a talkative but he always made look like one. I complained a couple of times and asked when he will try to change just for me.

I know that every girl will want his boyfriend to chat with her, play with her or sometimes talk naughty with her but that was lacking in my relationship and that to me was a very essential part of the relationship. Sometimes I will be with him but still want someone to talk to but I had to cope with it because I loved him, hoping that he will change someday. Truthfully, I have never met any guy who loved me and proved it like Kobby.

After computer school I moved to my Auntie's house because it was close to my place of work. My Auntie always asked me to bring my boyfriend home so that he will take me serious. But I hid Kobby from her.

My cousin Dorcas was like my twin sister. We did everything together because she was so calm and always by my side, though she was two years older than me. We lived happily and I always told her about Kobby and how good he was to me. She always told me she was itching to see how he looks like but I always postponed her meeting with Kobby.

We went out on a date one Saturday and, whether out of eating too much or eating wrongly, I had a stomach upset which kept me in bed for almost two weeks. Automatically, Kobby had no option but to visit me at home. When he came my cousin brought him in. From then on Kobby kept visiting me mostly after work and sometimes talked at length with my cousin Dorcas and my Auntie and leave late.

Eventually I got better so the normal routine began again but surprisingly, Dorcas always asked of him and want to know what is going on between us. I loved her so much and trusted her so I told her everything. I started realizing little changes in Kobby but he always used work as an excuse and I understood him because he had been promoted at work.

I felt all was not well but couldn’t tell where the problem was coming from. But believe you me, I never saw or heard him talk to any lady in an obscured way so I trusted him with everything in me. But this time I never told anybody not even Dorcas.

I went to Kobby's house one day after work without informing him I was coming. Just when I got to the gate I heard him chatting with someone in his room so I stood there for a while contemplating whether to go in or not. After a while, I entered and there he was with a cute and beautiful lady in his room.

I was so amazed when I met her in some short and transparent dress because Kobby was always particular about my way of dressing and would complain about the slightest indecent dress I wore.

I greeted them and told them I was sorry I did not know he had a guest but he introduced her as a friend from school. At once I knew she was the reason Kobby was not giving me the necessary attention he gave me before. I was so angry inside but I kept a steady and smiling face.

Eventually the lady left. I did not ask him anything about her. Subsequently I heard him talking to a lady on phone but could not make out what they were talking about. I later saw him with the same lady again but kept mute about it. I began to think and pray about his new attitude and cover ups. My Auntie and cousin would always ask me if anything was bothering me because they noticed that I could not eat well and always kept to myself. But I told them I was fine.

One Tuesday afternoon I asked permission to come home to rest because I was not well. God being so good my permission was granted so I decided to go home and take a shower and go to Kobby's house to talk things over with him and also disclose how I felt about the way he was treating me hoping that we will settle things for us to move on.

I got home and just when I got to the corridor I saw two people in a tight hug and kissing passionately. I thought Dorcas had brought her boyfriend home. In fact they did notice my presence but they were so much soaked in what they were doing. After sometime they separated and lo and behold it was Kobby I saw.

You can imagine my shock and amazement and all I did was stand and watch them. They were as shocked as I was because they never thought I could come and catch them at that time. After sometime I went out and sat at a cool place and wept my heart out. I  thought Kobby might be cheating but little did I know it was with the same person I dined and slept with and worse of all my own cousin Dorcas.

I stayed out and wept until I fell asleep under a tree. I later woke up and was shocked to find a lady standing by me. I got up in shock and quickly walked away not knowing where I was going. Finally I went to a lady friend’s house and later left to my mum's.

As for the number of calls I got from Kobby, Dorcas and my Auntie, it could not even count them. Though I came to Accra after a while because of work, I rented a place and went for all my things from my Aunties place. All I told them was that I have nothing against them but I wanted to be alone and left.

Kobby apologized to me and told me it was not his fault but my cousin practically made him fall for her with the support of my Auntie but couldn’t breakup with me because he loved me and did not have any reason to do that.

This is something I have not been able to deal with and don’t know if I can love again. For now, love is out of my books because though I loved genuinely, love has not been fair to me. Please tell me if love has treated me fairly or not.

I thank God I am alive because I know ladies go through a lot in the name of relationship and suffer at the hands of guys. Believe you me, there are a lot of mad women on the streets because of some form of disappointment in previous relationships. I have gone through it and back and know how it feels.